What Are the Different Types Of BDSM Collars?
When many of you first encounter something that you will later know to be BDSM, it is through a visual stimulant. You are looking through sex photos and there is suddenly a woman in leather with a whip and a man on his knees before her wearing a sexy collar. Whether this excites you literally or figuratively doesn’t matter. Because, either way, it pulls you over here to us, on the dark side. Whether it’s a fantasy BDSM session or something a little more real that interests you, BDSM collars symbolize the relationship between the submissive and dominant Mistress. Oh, you’re perfectly safe here. But we do like to make sure you know your place, and for some of you that requires a collar. After all, you are men and we know it’s easy to forget your place.
Mistress Always Decides
BDSM collars can be fun though. They keep you focused on the fact that you are truly the submissive. And if we like, we can attach a leash and really have you right where we want you. It’s not always easy to determine what the best collar for a submissive is. At least not until we get to know you a little bit. Admittedly, the terms used in BDSM can be confusing and complex. However, in the end, these specialized jargon terms convey a lot of information.
In fact, I bet some of you didn’t even know there were different types of collars that can be used in BDSM sessions. The collar issued to you by your Mistress might be very different than one she’d instruct some other submissive to wear. It’s true! Collars describe the relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. In fact, they define it specifically. And while there are various types of collars and you might really want to wear one, it is ultimately up to the Mistress if she wants to use a collar on her submissive or not.
We Will Consider BDSM Collars For You
One of the collars used by Dominants and submissives is the collar of consideration. This is very often the first step in a new relationship between a Dom and a Sub. The Sub wears the collar for an agreed upon period of time. At the end of that time, the Dom and Sub discuss whether or not the D/s relationship advances to a higher level, or if the relationship ends. The collar of consideration also signals to other Dominants that this submissive is not available.
Giving this collar and subsequently wearing it, are not to be taken lightly. While the relationship is not binding at this point and either party may, without recriminations, end the relationship while in the consideration phase, it is still a very important step and one that both must choose carefully and, as it were, consider. Likewise, consider each further step in the collaring process very carefully. The perfect fit between submissive and Mistress is important, perhaps even more important than the fit between a client and Mistress in a phone sex session.
BDSM Training Collars Commitment
After the consideration phase, your Mistress may offer to replace your consideration collar with a training collar. A training collar at this point in the relationship symbolizes, in essence, an engagement ring. As opposed to just saying that we may or may not choose to continue this, it always signifies a more long-term commitment.
No submissive should accept a training collar from a Mistress without already knowing what is expected of him. This collar signifies a new commitment in a relationship between two partners. Other submissives and Dommes cannot be a part of it. There is an exception, though. A Dominant, who agrees to take on a submissive expressly for the purpose of training them or correcting bad behavior, can also use this collar. However, it is most often part of an ongoing female led relationship.
Formal Offering Of Control
Finally, we come to what is the last collar to be introduced. It is the ultimate step into the D/s relationship, which is the formal collar, or slave collar. Once a Dominant gives this collar, the Dominant agrees to care for and control the submissive. Simultaneously, the submissive agrees also to be part of the ongoing and often lifelong commitment to their Dominant partner. This collar is very similar to a wedding ring.
The Dominant and submissive partners are seen as a couple and trust and loyalty are assumed. It is not easy to end this relationship which honors a submissive who adores their Mistress. The collar is the recognition of the bond between the Dominant and the submissive. It shows loyalty and devotion. It also shows that you, as the submissive man, belong to your Mistress, as it should be!
To explore your submissive desires, and perhaps even earn a collar of your own, contact one of the Mistresses of Vox Erotic today! With well over a century of combined expertise and knowledge, we can guarantee you’ll have a fantastic time with any of the Ladies. Our phone sex philosophy ensures a superior phone sex experience, no matter what sort of collar you wear.