What are the Different Types of BDSM Collars?

When many of you first encounter something that you will later know to be BDSM, it is through a visual stimulant. You are looking through sex photos and there is suddenly a woman in leather with a whip and a man on his knees before her wearing a sexy collar. Whether this excites you literally or figuratively doesn’t matter, because either way it pulls you over here to us on the dark side. Whether what you’re interested in is a fantasy BDSM session or something a little more real, the collar symbolizes the relationship between the submissive and dominant Mistress. Oh, you’re perfectly safe here, but we do like to make sure you know your place, and for some of you that requires a collar. After all, you are men and we know it’s easy to forget your place.

BDSM collars can be fun though. They keep you focused on the fact that you are truly the submissive and if we like, we can attach a leash and really have you right where we want you. It’s not always easy to determine what the best collar for a submissive is, at least not until we get to know you a little bit. The terms used in BDSM can be confusing and complex, but in the end, these specialized jargon terms convey a lot of information.

In fact, I bet some of you didn’t even know there were different types of collars that can be used in BDSM sessions. The collar issued to you by your Mistress might be very different than one she’d instruct some other submissive to wear. It’s true! They are used to describe the relationship between a Dominant and a submissive, to help define it more specifically. And while there are various types of collars and you might really want to wear one, it is ultimately up to the Mistress if she wants to use a collar on her submissive or not.

We Will Consider Putting a Collar On You

One of the collars used by Dominants and submissives is the collar of consideration. This is very often the first step in a new relationship between a Dom and a Sub. The collar is usually worn for an agreed period of time, and at the end of the time, it can be discussed whether the D/s relationship goes to a higher stop, or if the relationship ends. The collar of consideration also gives out the signal to other Dominants that submissive is taken.

Giving this collar and subsequently wearing it, are not to be taken lightly. While the relationship is not considered to be binding at this point and either party may choose, without recriminations to end the relationship while in the consideration phase, it is still a very important step and one that must be carefully chosen and, as it were, considered. Each further step in the collaring process should be considered very carefully, as the perfect fit between submissive and Mistress is important, perhaps even more important than the fit between a client and Mistress in a phone sex session.

BDSM Training Collar Commitment

After the consideration phase, your Mistress may offer to replace your consideration collar with a training collar. A training collar being introduced into the relationship is likened to an engagement ring. As opposed to just saying that we may or may not choose to continue this, it always signifies a more long-term commitment.

No submissive should accept a training collar from a Mistress without already knowing what is expected of him. This is most often a collar used to signify a new commitment in a relationship between two partners, one that other submissives and Dommes cannot be part of it. Though, this collar can also be used by a Dominant who agrees to take on a submissive expressly for the purpose of training them or correcting bad behavior, it is most often part of an ongoing female led relationship.

Formal Offering of Control

Finally we come to what is the last collar to be introduced. It is the ultimate step into the D/s relationship, which is the formal collar, or slave collar. Once this collar is given, a Dominant is agreeing to care for and control the submissive and the submissive agrees also to be part of the ongoing and often lifelong commitment to their Dominant partner. This collar is seen as something very similar to a wedding ring.

The Dominant and submissive partners are seen as a couple and trust and loyalty are assumed. This is now a relationship that is not easily ended and one that any submissive would be honored to be part of with a Mistress they adore. The collar is the recognition of the bond between the Dominant and the submissive. It shows loyalty and devotion. It also shows that you, as the submissive man, belong to your Mistress, as it should be!

To explore your submissive desires, and perhaps even earn a collar of your own, contact one of the Mistresses of Vox Erotic today! With well over a century of combined expertise and knowledge, we can guarantee you’ll have a fantastic time with any of the Ladies. Our phone sex philosophy ensures a superior phone sex experience, no matter what sort of collar you wear.